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My Child Fails
Every Test
Tests make them
nervous
It’s inexplicable, but your
child just can’t seem to do well in tests. It’s not that he’s
lacking in intelligence because you’ve personally done revisions
with him and he definitely knows all the answers at home. But his test
results are always poor to dismal.
Today, the pressure on children
to perform and achieve is tremendous. Parents are pulling out their
hair and feeling like they are back in school again as they try to jog
their memories and fathom the mysteries of fractions, decimals, maps,
historical events, and the basic principles of science. They will try
anything to get their children to perform – cajoling, screaming,
bribing, extra classes, etc. But sometimes nothing seems to work.
The problem, in such cases, is
one of test anxiety. Children become so nervous about the test that
when faced with a blank answer sheet, their minds go blank, even if
they are well prepared. Most parents find it hard to believe that mere
nervousness can make a child forget everything he’s learned and
fervently pray that he’ll grow out of it.
Short circuit
of the brain
Some researchers give a
physiological explanation for test anxiety. According to them, when a
child prepares for a test, the information is stored in the short-term
memory. The area of the brain that controls short term memory is also
the centre for emotion. Thus, when a child becomes anxious during a
test, the emotional upheaval overrides the child’s ability to
retrieve the information from the short-term memory.
Studying the
wrong way
Sometimes a child may have used
the wrong method to prepare for a test. For instance, a child revises
for a spelling test by spelling the words out orally, but when faced
with the blank lined sheet of paper, he cannot seem to get the
spellings right. In such a case, it may be a good idea for parents to
give him a mock written spelling test at home the night before.
Too much
pressure
Parents can unwittingly
pressure their child to such an extent that they cannot perform. Even
before they have answered the first question, they are worried that
they might not meet their parents’ expectations of their
performance. This anxiety obviously steals their concentration and
they perform poorly. Parents should try not to lay too much stress on
the importance of doing well in the test. No doubt, it is important,
but if your child is going to be so petrified of failing that it
affects his performance, how does it help? Try to make them look at
tests from another point of view, as a method for teachers to assess
whether their teaching is effective. Reassure them that you’re sure
that they’ll do better next time.
Lack of
confidence
Other children are just not
confident enough. There are many children who revise the material
again and again because they are convinced they don’t know it well
enough. Even though they are so well prepared, the same children will
be twiddling their pencils between their fingers, desperately thinking
about what to write during an exam. This happens because when they see
even a couple of questions to which the answer doesn’t immediately
come to mind, they are convinced that they know nothing and accept
defeat without even trying to recall the information.
Studying is
‘uncool’
By the time they are teenagers,
it’s not considered ‘cool’ to study too hard for tests. As a
result, studying is usually done at the last minute and naturally
leads to panic. Children cannot be expected to absorb information if
they are constantly wondering if they’ll be able to finish studying
the material before the night is over. The best that parents can do is
to make their children put up the test schedule on the calendar so
they know how many days they have to go before the test. It’s
another matter entirely whether children actually look at the
calendar.
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